Never get so used to a lie that it begins to become your truth, in such a way that even when the truth presents itself clearly, you are still quite blinded, or rather, imprisoned by that lie you are unwilling to let go. This could probably be because you can’t imagine how your life would be without that lie in your life- a lie you’ve gotten extremely accustomed to, to forfeit easily.
But really, no lie is worth living. The truth, no matter how unfriendly, no matter how late it decides to surface, is actually what you need in your life, to live as you should. Embrace truth and let it set you free from the lie you’ve been imprisoned.
Learn to move on from that which hurts you. I wouldn’t say you should let go, cos the truth is, we don’t really let go of certain memories, no matter how hard we try. We might think we did let go, only to find ourselves being reminded of them, probably by just a gesture, a person, or even a thing. So, yeah, letting go is out of the question.
The best you can do is move on GENUINELY, that, whenever those sad memories are revived from their subconscious, you wouldn’t give a tear or feel a pain in your chest. Rather, you would give a smile and contented sigh that says “that was just life being life, I’m better now”-This is one way to ‘forget’.
P.S: Make peace with that sour past of yours, and you’ll realise just how less stingy it feels when reminded of it.
That thing that gives you comfort,
that thing that provides you zoar
whenever you are on the run from your chaos,
that thing, that while engaged in it,
you forget your sorrows,
that thing that gives you grand bliss,
That thing is pure gold,
don’t throw it away
tranquility amid calamity
is no ordinary feeling,
it’s a feeling so heavenly,
you can’t help but
associate it with God
*** cos when you really sit down to think of it, you realise HE’s the reason you seem quite settled in a precarious situation. HE’s the reason that storm (even when it turns out to be a hurricane) never seems to blow you away.
Remember that this hurt, like so many other things is life, is transient. Thus, while you might tolerate it, never get used to it; while you might accept it as what it is (temporary unfortunate happenings in your life), never accept it as part of you.
Eager to correct the mistakes of others, but never was he, for his.
Quick to judge, but never did he take a sec to put himself under scrutiny.
Each time he accused the wrong of being wrong,
he is replied with a sarcastic chuckle, like, “is this dude kidding me right now? He is our friggin’ ringleader!”
He was their well observed mentor, and he didn’t even know it; so blind was he to his ways, he didn’t know how greatly, his life mirrored those he so heavily chastised.
If only he knew each rebuke he leveled against them, was a double for him, maybe he would have kept his contemning remarks to himself.
How appalling it is, to be a replica (if not worse),
of what we so outrightly excoriate.
Sometimes, we actually UNKNOWINGLY fail to realise that we are just as bad as what/whom we label ‘bad’. This occurs mostly as result of the fact that we fail to take time to examine ourselves. This is why everyone needs a mirror, which helps in identifying our errors.
The mirror I’ll however recommend to us all, is the Bible. It’s the best mirror for checkmating ourselves.